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The Three Losses in Five Years Syndrome

Over the past 10 years, I have come across a subset of individuals who begin a sudden onset of chronic disorganization. These are individuals who are serving as family caretakers who have experienced at least three significant losses in their life over the span of 5 years. This subset has usually served as primary caretaker for either parent(s), spouse or sibling(s). Many of them also serve as the executor of one or more of these estates. Many of these individuals seem to take about 7 to 12 years after the final loss to come to terms with this in their life.

What I would like to see is a more active approach to treating this, more on the onset prevention than as an after effect treatment.

It would be beneficial to have physicians and their staffs work to identify caretakers who are already at two losses in five years, and encourage them to get additional support through grief counseling, caretaker support group participation and for those financially able, consider the services of a skilled professional organizer. A skilled professional organizer can do wonders to help the “primary caretaker client ” in terms of time management, goal setting, project planning and management. Many professional organizers can help establish bill paying and document management systems to handle the growing paperwork that complex and long-term medical conditions usually entail as well as documents for estates probate. A professional organizer can help the client simplify his or her life and environment as well as serve as a body double for difficult and often procrastinated tasks.

While a professional organizers services are not inexpensive, they are a valuable tool that may help the primary caretaker live a more vibrant and fulfilling life while and after experiencing heavy losses in their life.

The Three Losses in 5 Years are primarily death losses. For some, however, one of those losses can be the loss of a pet, divorce or significant job loss.

I believe more research and education is needed in this area. Let’s hope that this syndrome can be more clearly understood and helpful strategies for success developed and promoted to the general public.

 

This is a best of post

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Seasonal Slowdown

There are certain times of year that seem to reduce our daily productivity. In my opinion there are four big times. They are the late November and the traditional December Holidays, early July and the first two weeks of August.

Don’t let others make you slow. Accept that this is going to be a less productive time when especially when working with colleagues.   Let their delay and dallying be your occasion to work on past and future projects. These times are great for working on organization of past material, future planning, back burner projects and future planning.

This is the perfect time to use my “project hand” to list out the projects that are perfect for the next seasonal delay time.

You may also want to check out my website for monthly tips on organizing ideas for home and work.

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Carrot or Stick?

How do you treat yourself when you are going towards reaching a tricky point in a project? I have been thinking about this lately. When I am procrastinating I often promise myself a “carrot” upon completion or reaching a certain benchmark. Some day’s however I pull out the stick “in my head” and give myself a mental caning of sorts.  The mental caning is not productive or very pleasant but it does sometimes make me move on towards the destination.

So what are your thoughts on your personal self management using carrots or the stick?

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Three Losses in Five Years

The Three Losses in 5 years Syndrome

Over the past 10 years, I have come across a subset of individuals who begin a sudden onset of chronic disorganization.  These are individuals who are  serving as family caretakers who have experienced at least three significant losses in their life over the span of 5 years. This subset has usually served as primary caretaker for either parent(s), spouse or sibling(s). Many of them also serve as the executor of one or more of these estates.   Many of these individuals seem to take about 7 to 12 years after the final loss  to come to terms with this in their life.

What I would like to see is a more active approach to treating this,  more on the onset prevention than as an after effect treatment.

It would be beneficial to have physicians and their staffs work to identify caretakers who are already at two losses in five years, and encourage them to get additional support through grief counseling, caretaker support group participation and for those financially able,  consider the services of a skilled professional organizer.  A skilled professional organizer can do wonders to help the “primary caretaker client ” in terms of time management, goal setting, project planning and management. Many professional organizers can help establish bill paying and document management systems to handle the growing paperwork that complex and long-term medical conditions usually entail as well as documents for estates probate.  A professional organizer can help the client simplify his or her life and environment as well as serve as a body double for difficult and often procrastinated tasks.

While a professional organizers services are not inexpensive, they are a valuable tool that may help the primary caretaker live a more vibrant and fulfilling life while and after experiencing heavy losses in their life.

The Three Losses in 5 Years are primarily death losses.  For some, however, one of those losses can be the loss of a pet, divorce or significant job loss.

I believe more research and education is needed in this area. Let’s hope that this syndrome can be more clearly understood and helpful strategies for success developed and promoted to the general public.

 

This is a best of post from 2010.

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Seasonal Slowdown Approaching

There are certain times of year that seem to reduce our daily productivity. In my opinion there are four big times. They are the late November and the traditional December Holidays, early July and the first two weeks of August.

Don’t let others make you slow. Accept that this is going to be a less productive time when especially when working with colleagues.   Let their delay and dallying be your occasion to work on past and future projects. These times are great for working on organization of past material, future planning, back burner projects and future planning.

This is the perfect time to use my “project hand” to list out the projects that are perfect for the next seasonal delay time.

You may also want to check out my website for monthly tips on organizing ideas for home and work.

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Screen Free Days

Have you thought about how it would be to have a “screen free day”. Since I have become the proud owner of an IPhone,  I am finding this harder to do. I can even reduce myself to playing solitaire. There is always something fun and interesting to check out besides phone messages and texts. Now there is potential email, Words with Friends and when in a networked area, the whole world wide web to explore. We are becoming screen sucked (excuse my language but that is a word used by experts these days). Screen Sucked was introduced in the 2007 book CrazyBusy by Edward Halloway. Screens are pulling the life out of us.  Halloway says – Held by a mysterious force, a person can sit long after the work has been done or the show he wanted to watch is over, absently glommed on to the screen, not especially enjoying what he is doing but not able to disconnect and turn off the machine.

What have you been doing to prevent excessive hours of screen time?

I have found using the timer apps (available on IPhones and smartphones) can help one be more aware of potential time breaks.  I have been attempting to avoid morning screens. Now I have gone back to reading an actual newspaper or non fiction book in paper format. This helps me start my day in clearer form.

I’d love to hear more suggestions.

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Time to Rest

There are times when resting is the only possible option.  Resting is a good thing to do when you are ill or recovering from surgery.

I believe there are those who rest well and those who have a hard time practicing this skill set. Productive resters set their mind on pause, while the unproductive resters bemoan the things they are getting behind on.

Unproductive resters are those who squeeze in a few small “necessary” tasks. This takes extra energy and exertion that is overall unproductive to their recovery.

Being a productive rester is a choice, and a practice. Next time you are  recuperating  – choose to rest productively.

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